This chapter portrays how easily people can be wounded by casual remarks, criticism, or the expectations of others. Through vivid real-life examples, it reveals how dependence on others’ evaluations creates anxiety, stress, and self-doubt. The reader begins to see that being “swayed by words” is not a personal weakness but a structural issue in communication.
Here, the book explores the cultural, psychological, and social reasons why words in Japanese society are overvalued—sometimes to the point of suffocation. Drawing on insights from the social sciences, it analyzes why “listening well” and “valuing every word” became unexamined norms. This chapter sets the stage for challenging the conventional wisdom that language is always constructive.
This chapter challenges the widespread belief that words inherently hold truth or value. It argues instead that words gain meaning only in context, and that over-reliance on language distorts self-perception. By reframing words as limited tools, readers are encouraged to free themselves from unnecessary suffering.
Here the book explains the psychological and social mechanisms that cause people to be overly influenced by what others say. It introduces the author’s original Public–Private Environment Hypothesis, showing how environments amplify or weaken the impact of words. This framework empowers readers to see how structural dynamics, not individual weakness, lie behind their distress.
This chapter reframes the act of “letting words pass through” as not avoidance, but as the very process by which language becomes truly alive. Drawing from philosophy, counseling, and clinical examples, it shows how releasing words from their heavy burden opens the door to authentic communication.
The final chapter presents concrete strategies for reclaiming autonomy from harmful words. Readers learn to cultivate their own context, maintain resilience, and engage with others without being destabilized by careless remarks. It closes with a hopeful message: that freedom from the tyranny of words is possible, practical, and life-changing.
"別再因創傷而活得好累:修復發展性創傷,從「把自己擺在第一位」開始"(the Traditional Chinese version of "Developmental Trauma: The Real Cause of "Ikizurasa")
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"刻意不在乎: 告別垃圾話情勒! 日本國家心理師教你如何透過大腦機制, 不在意閒言閒語, 不必虧待自己”(the Traditional Chinese version of "How to Let Other People’s Words Pass Through")
Over 40,000 copies sold across Ichitaro Miki’s titles, with two complementary bestsellers from leading Japanese publishers:
Developmental Trauma: The Real Cause of “Ikizurasa” (Chronic Distress or Difficulty in Living) (Discover Twenty One, 2023)
How to Let Other People’s Words Pass Through (Working English title; also translatable as The Skill of Not Taking Words Personally) (Forest Publishing, 2022)
Together, these works address two of today’s most pressing mental health concerns:
Hidden trauma and chronic distress (“ikizurasa”)—providing a clinical yet accessible framework for understanding developmental trauma and complex PTSD as a stress disorder.
Language-driven stress in relationships and workplaces—offering readers practical strategies to disengage from the excessive weight of others’ words.
Both titles have already been translated into Korean and Traditional Chinese, showing strong cross-cultural resonance and clear potential for further international editions.
This work is the first to clearly reposition trauma—not merely as a “psychic wound” but as a stress disorder—and to substantiate that claim with clinical evidence. By highlighting not only high-risk stressors such as abuse or disasters, but also the damaging effects of small, chronic stressors in everyday life, it reframes trauma as a universal human issue rather than a rare, exceptional condition. For this reason, it has been embraced not only by professionals but also by those directly affected.
The book provides language for the vague but deeply felt “ikizurasa” (chronic distress, difficulty in living) that so many people experience. What was once dismissed as “personality problems” or “weakness” is shown to be rooted in developmental trauma—repeated stress in childhood within families, schools, or communities. This reframing allows readers to understand their struggles not as personal failings but as the result of identifiable mechanisms, opening a clear path toward healing.
The book aligns with the latest findings in neuroscience, psychiatry, and stress research. By explaining how chronic stress shapes brain function (amygdala overactivity, hippocampal shrinkage, prefrontal regulation failure, HPA axis dysregulation), it grounds psychological suffering in biological processes. This provides a bridge between scientific validity and clinical practice, making trauma understandable and actionable.
Drawing on Dr. Toshio Sugiyama’s concept of the “fourth developmental disorder,” the book illuminates how trauma-related symptoms (inattention, impulsivity, social fear) can closely mimic autism spectrum disorder or ADHD. By clarifying these distinctions, it prevents misdiagnosis and mistreatment, urging clinicians to assess both developmental history and current symptoms together. This approach has significant implications for accurate diagnosis and effective care.
Through vivid case examples, readers can recognize themselves and their lived experiences. The book empowers individuals to see their symptoms as understandable responses to chronic stress rather than as personal flaws. It also introduces concrete paths for trauma care, including body-based approaches and attention to social safety, resonating with both professionals and general readers.
Above all, the book delivers a powerful message: “Your suffering has a reason—and it is not your fault.” By redefining trauma as a stress disorder rooted in everyday life, it lifts the burden of self-blame and offers a realistic, compassionate framework for recovery. This makes it not only a pioneering contribution to trauma studies but also a guidebook of hope for countless individuals and families worldwide.
In an era where counseling and coaching often emphasize the importance of listening and empathy, this book offers a fresh counterpoint: words should not be overvalued as absolute truths. By reframing how we interpret language, it empowers readers to protect themselves from unnecessary psychological harm in everyday life.
Unlike many self-help titles that offer quick fixes, this book addresses the underlying structures that make words so impactful. Drawing not only from counseling practice but also from social science and the humanities, it situates everyday struggles within broader cultural and interpersonal contexts.
Central to the book is the author’s original Public–Private Environment Hypothesis, a new framework that explains how family, workplace, and social environments amplify or mitigate the impact of language. This contribution has drawn strong interest from both practitioners and general readers.
The work bridges the gap between lived experience and theory, echoing intellectual traditions that emphasize context and meaning-making. At the same time, it remains accessible, using vivid case examples to help readers recognize their own struggles and discover practical ways to regain balance.
Praised on platforms like Amazon Japan, the book has resonated strongly with readers who struggle with excessive sensitivity to others’ words. They report that the book offers not only reassurance but also a concrete shift in perspective—transforming what once felt like a personal weakness into something understandable and manageable.